There is a very popular quote that is one of my biggest pet peeves. Hearing this quote spoken is the equivalent to me of nails scratching chalkboard. On Etsy, you can even buy beautifully stained wooden planks etched and painted with some version of this quote.
“Good Moms have Sticky Floors, Messy Kitchens, Laundry Piles and Happy Kids.”
When I was a younger mother, this quote made me feel self-conscious. I wasn’t confident in my mothering skills and this quote actually made me cry. I had twin two year olds, a 1 year old, and I was trying my best. We’d finger paint or play with play-doh, and then I’d clean it up. This quote made me wonder at the time if I were doing it wrong. Maybe I was supposed to be using that clean-up time to go over flash cards with the kids?
Now I’ve met enough people and learned that you can simplify what a good mom is, but it has nothing to do with sticky floors. Good moms love their kids. Wherever they find themselves on the housekeeping spectrum, Good Moms agree that children are more important than messes or laundry.
There are many different molds for a good mom.
Some good moms make healthy meals. Some good moms have bad days and decide spontaneously to feed the kids ice cream for dinner.
Some good moms throw amazing parties, volunteer at school all the time, fit into their skinny jeans on the way home from delivering their babies, and some good moms want to throw toilet paper in the yards of those moms just before it rains.
I’ve seen good moms have kids who deal with depression and anxiety. I’ve seen good moms cry from worry about their kids.
Happy Kids and Clean Floors don’t necessarily have much to do with each other, except I can use both those phrases in lots of fun sentences. “My Happy Kids turned my Clean Floors into a Lego land-mine zone.” “My Happy Kids cried as I made them Clean Floors.” “I have Happy Kids and Clean Floors, and I ate a brownie for lunch.” Watch out, Etsy, I’m going to make a sign out of that and it is going to blow your mind.