Hey there! How has your organizing been going for you this summer? Not enough time?! That is how I feel. Summer is always different than I expect it to be. Heading into it, I always picture a string of lazy days by the pool, but reality is summer is just as busy as the school year … just a different kind of busy! A number of my personal organizing projects are on hold until my kids are back in school in a few weeks. Non-essentials are getting pushed to the side as we embrace our summer birthday fest (5 out of 6 in my family have birthdays within 6 weeks) and getting ready for school! I am finding a little time to help some clients out this summer, which has inspired me to share some thoughts with you.
De-cluttering is an emotional and personal experience. I feel so blessed that my clients let me into their personal space and share openly and honestly about their feelings and struggles. This is how I learn that there is a similarity between how many of us feel about our stuff. If you feel guilt when you get rid of unneeded items in your house, you are not alone. Sometimes we have to make the hard choice between Our Junk or Our Life.
The idea of letting things go is something I bring up quite regularly. Here is a little reminder of some of my past posts that relate. These were the ones I could remember, there might be more I’ve written. If you only read one of these, read this top one: Secrets of the Organized.
Secrets of the Organized (Secret #1) – All about Purging! And if you are wondering why I never finished that series, it is because I decided to make it an eBook. Still working on it. You will definitely be notified when it is ready!!
How To Setup A Donation Station – This one is about one way of controlling how you get the stuff out of the house and making it easier to purge frequently.
How To Organize (or 3 Steps to Organize Any Space) – A practical how-to guide for getting a space organized!
Quit Your Free Thinking – Pretty much what you’d expect from the title.
Too Many Leftover Containers! – Also a little bit about organizing kitchen cabinets.
Kids Laundry: Setting Limits & Creating Neat Drawers – I think you need to read this one before you shop for school clothes!
The following tip is all about helping you navigate one of the hardest mental battles when de-cluttering. This is often one of the biggest reasons people can get overwhelmed with the process. The guilt of “waste”. Have you ever tried to get rid of something, but you can’t because of any variation of the following excuse to keep something:
“I spent money on this, it would be a waste to get rid of it”
I want you to remember:
- What is bought is bought, and keeping it does not get your money back. This is a sunk cost. A sunk cost is never a good reason to sink even more of your time/money/energy/resources trying to get it to “float”. Say adieu and move on.
- The more objects in our homes, the more we have to take care of and dust. This takes time away from doing more enjoyable things.
- We pay rent/mortgage for every item in our homes. If you are stressed because of clutter, that is an additional cost. NO ITEM is worth that cost.
- 99% of our stuff does not get more valuable being stored – it gets old and dirty. If you have to sacrifice that 1% for the sake of a clean, peaceful home, SO BE IT! Keep your eye on the prize. How much would you pay right now to have a clean/organized home? Are you going to let this item get in the way of that?!
And here is a very important truth to remember and consider:
When objects (not people!) get old, they often become obsolete and lose usefulness to ANYONE. So letting them sit in storage waiting to be used is a big waste, even a huge waste of money! Pass things on while they are in their prime!! The person who needs it will be thankful AND you can be thankful you don’t have a clutter-filled house.
And to go along with this – the better you get at tossing stuff you don’t need you AUTOMATICALLY start to get better at NOT BUYING additional stuff you don’t need. In the end, YOU SAVE so much money by decluttering and getting rid of even “valuables”.
In no way do I intend to trivialize the difficult emotions of getting rid of stuff. I have a great respect for my clients that struggle with this guilt. It is a great passion of mine to free my clients (and now my readers too!) from this guilt, because in this freedom, you will find the life you want. I really believe that with letting go of stuff, of the material junk holding us down, our quality of life improves drastically.
Stop letting the stuff take over your life. If you have to choose between Your JUNK or Your Life – always choose your life.
From my home to yours,